I am locked out of 2 groups for 5 days even after updating profile-PENDING-WHY? Is 5 days normal? What next?

Originally, I was ignorant, thinking my profile was updated in the the box where you tell the groups something about yourself. Not long after the original contact, I did the required update, putting my profile in order. Then, I emailed both groups that the necessary changes in the profile had been done. I was concerned that my email might be stuck there in some file that is rarely seen (just a guess and a precuation) I was told on Yahoo answers that when I made the changes, that status would change. I am not that impatient. If the normal time is a month, then so be it and I will wait for that time; but right now, I have no idea why there has been no response from either group. You see, I cannot go back in and reapply by hitting the JOIN on and starting over. My concern is that it is sidetracked somehow or may be caught in some kind of glitch in perpetuity. Somebody tell me if I am trapped in the Twilight Zone. Is this overdue? If so, then what is my next step? Trying to email the moderator central group or what? There is a shadow of doubt taking root that they do not want me and hope I will go away, possibly due to my age. But I am not ready to use the D word yet; it's never crossed my mind until now. But I am most likely considerably older than most of the members in these two groups. (hint: I was born in the year Hitler invaded Poland, but I never did meet Lincoln or Plato, so I am not that old! At this point, my original enthusiasm has waned, and I am more interested in seeing it through, now, to find out just what happened. I can always join another group later, sometime. I have used up too many points just trying to figure out what the heck is going on. Any help or directions you all can offer will be appreciated. Just, please don't jump the track and speculate that I must have been cursing or spamming as has been offered. I didn't. That's it. Fire out! Thanks